Case Study: Skippy, 5'5" and Indian in New York, From No Dates to "Night and Day"

Skippy (the name he goes by) is Indian, 5'5", works in tech in New York and earns over $200K. He'd tried everything he could find and was stuck in a long dry spell. Coach D remembers him going "from no text to no dates" to going on dates and texting Coach D for what to do next. Skippy's own summary of the difference: "night and day."

In the video above, Coach D talks with him in New York.

Who he is

An Indian man, 5'5", in tech, earning over $200K, living in New York. Coach D is direct about what that means in New York dating: being short and Brown there means it's harder, and you have to work harder. Skippy doesn't pretend otherwise either.

Where he was

He was putting in the effort and getting very little back:

"Before I met D, I was basically trying everything I could. I was going out. I thought I was doing all the right things."

"It was … basically just spinning my wheels, not really knowing what was working, what wasn't working. If I got some results, it was kind of random."

Then he moved to New York, and "it got even harder surprisingly." Coach D remembers that when they first met, Skippy struggled to get dates and came in with anxiety, after a long dry spell.

What he'd already tried

The mainstream material. In his words: "I know all the material out there. I've been trying everything." On dates, that meant scripts and routines:

"I'm going to come up with my routines and it was just it was way too much. … I kind of was treating dating like this sort of a a chess game that you have to be very prepared for."

Looking back, he says "a lot of the advice … I had been following was not really tailored for me."

What we worked on

Our method is called the Double-Take Effect: three parts, coached together, so that a woman stops filing you as a type and looks twice. The parts are your profile, who sees you, and your dates. Skippy's story is about the third part.

Your dates. Skippy has worked with Coach D, who coaches our clients on their dates, for a few years. The change wasn't a new tactic. Coach D's instruction was to stop hiding his interest: show it, stand his ground, stay respectful, set boundaries, and have fun. For Skippy, that meant dropping the prepared lines and leaning into the fact that he was on a date. After one date that "just didn't go so well", he went into the next one that week and decided to "lean into the the fun of it, like flirt with her."

Coach D also tells the story of watching Skippy approach models and women of 5'10" and taller, and get respect and attraction back.

The interview doesn't cover his dating profile or where he dates, so we won't claim anything about those here.

What changed

Dates: from no texts and no dates to going on dates, in Coach D's words.
How it feels: "night and day", in Skippy's words. He was having more fun on dates, and so were the women he was with.
Confidence with taller women: approaching women of 5'10" and over, which Coach D says got him real attraction back.

In his own words

"Oh, it was honestly night and day."

"I was having more fun and the girls were having more fun as well."

"I realized a lot of the advice that … I had been following was not really tailored for me."

"Before I met D, I was basically trying everything I could. I was going out. I thought I was doing all the right things."

What this means for you

If you're a shorter Brown man in a big Western city, most dating advice wasn't written with you in mind, and copying it can leave you sounding scripted. Skippy didn't need more material. He needed coaching built for his position, and permission to show interest instead of hiding it.

Want our team on this with you? Most men start with the 21-Day Kickstart: Rags rebuilds your profile and runs two live group texting sessions, Coach D runs three live group date-coaching sessions, and Ravi checks in with you by message every day for 21 days and does a one-to-one with you. USD 2,000, or two payments of USD 1,000.

Individual results; yours depend on where you start and the work you put in.